Attachment Needs

Attachment needs are part of being human. From infancy to adulthood, we’re wired to seek connection. These needs include feeling safe, valued, comforted, and emotionally close to others. They’re not signs of weakness or dependency — they’re fundamental to mental and emotional well-being.

Understanding your own attachment needs is a powerful step toward building more secure attachment in your relationships with your partner, with others, and within yourself.

Negative Cycle Example

This is what we call the negative cycle in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
It’s the repetitive, self-reinforcing pattern of interaction that partners get stuck in during conflict or emotional disconnection. It's not just about surface behaviors like criticizing or withdrawing — it’s about the underlying attachment needs, fears, and injuries that drive those behaviors.